What’s my Healthy Relationship IQ?
Give yourself a point for each sentence that describes the relationship you are in now. If you don't have a boyfriend/girlfriend right now, think about if these sentences describe what you would want in a relationship. - We both decide how we're going to spend time together as a couple; no one is "in charge."
- We still find time for our own activities, apart from each other.
- My boyfriend or girlfriend is there for me in the good times and the bad.
- It's okay to disagree with each other; we can talk about our differences and look for "win-win" solutions.
- We're comfortable about taking time away from each other, to spend with our own friends and family.
- We're not afraid to say how we feel about things.
- We don't worry about what will happen if the other person gets angry.
- We respect each other's limits, and don't pressure each other to go beyond those limits.
- Neither of us restricts or controls the other.
- We've taken time to become sexually intimate, and we're able to be honest about our feelings in this part of our relationship.
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| If you've scored 8-10, congratulations on having such a high healthy relationship IQ! Less than 8? Maybe it's time for some honest talk with your boyfriend/girlfriend about the times in your relationship that you feel restricted or controlled, or unable to be yourself. Less than 5? You deserve better. There are people you can talk to if you need help figuring out what to do about the relationship you are in. |
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